How to Improve Your Self Esteem

4 years, 6 months ago

improve your self esteemThe expression “be your own best friend” might sound a little trite, if you’re given that advice, but the fact is that for all your life you’re the only person you’ll always be with!

You will improve your self esteem and you will be more likely to live a happy life if you like yourself as an individual.

When you really are your own best friend you will do and say all the things to yourself that a best friend would . You will encourage yourself to make wise choices and to follow your dreams.  Most of all, you’ll love yourself as only a best friend could.

Become your own best friend and improve your self esteem with these nine tips:

1. Accept yourself just as you are.
When you learn to feel comfortable with yourself your self image will improve. Perhaps you have some weaknesses that bother you. Instead of denying them or being critical, accept them as qualities that you can improve and then work on them.

2. Make a list of your strengths and weaknesses.
Be gentle on yourself, yet realistic, in identifying your personal qualities. Know what you’re good at and what you might want to work on to improve.

3. Follow your conscience when deciding what to do and not do.
Listen to what your heart, mind, soul, and your gut instinct is telling you. Don’t do anything that you don’t respect

• For example, let’s say keeping friends’ information private is important to you and a friend tells you something in confidence. If someone else tries to pump you for information, avoid behaving in a way that you would regret later.

• What you feel and believe is important. Being your own best friend means you recognize the importance of your own thoughts and emotions.

4. Protect yourself.
Do not allow others to take advantage of you nor to mistreat you.

5. Allow yourself to make mistakes.
No one can realistically expect perfection. You are human and we all make mistakes, so accept it!

• When you do err, make an effort to review what you did and why you did it. Learn from your mistake so you’ll know how to handle a similar situation in the future. Consider it a learning experience instead of beating yourself up about it.

• In essence, give yourself a break.

6. Stand up for yourself.
If someone has treated you unfairly, let them know that you’ve noticed it and that you don’t appreciate it. Then, tell them in an appropriate manner what you want or need from them.

7. Learn to soothe yourself when times are tough.
If you’re feeling down or sad then try these tips to lighten up:

• Figure out what eases your emotional pain and use it whenever necessary.

• For example, if reading a favored author relaxes and rejuvenates you, that might be one of your ways to soothe yourself.

• If you find that taking a long walk relieves negative feelings then that is another great method of self-soothing.

• Of course, it’s very important for your well-being that you find positive ways to self-soothe. Avoid using unhealthy methods like substance abuse or overeating.

8. Consider your own needs first.
Although some people might think that this is selfish but, in most instances, it makes perfect sense. After all, if you’re helping others then you need to take care of yourself first. So keep yourself in the best shape you that can, physically and emotionally.

9. Know your priorities and live your life accordingly.
Once you establish what’s important to you, you’ll be able to go after whatever it is you want in life.

Vow to be your own best friend by following these strategies. Learning to treat yourself with care, respect and kindness will pay off throughout your lifetime. You will improve your self-esteem when you make it a life goal to be your own best friend forever.